“The older I get…”

'Friends' cast members Jennifer Aniston, David Schwimmer, Courtney Cox, Matt LeBlanc, Lisa Kudrow and Matthew Perry - Getty Images

Friends Edition

Have you been in situations where you look back and wonder if you’ve changed? Or why you responded in a way you normally wouldn’t have in the past? Well, lately I have had these encounters, where I have been experiencing more frequent moments of self-reflection than ever before. I noticed that I come across situations where I see myself responding just differently. And it doesn’t have to be a visible or physical response, but more like the way my emotions are internally.

In the past I would dwell on other’s opinions and have moments of flashbacks where I would get a rush of embarrassment or anxiety (you know those random feelings or memories that would just creep up on you sometimes while you’re minding your business, grocery shopping, driving, flossing your teeth…anyways back to our topic)

Have we changed? is it related to age? Have my friends changed?

I plan on reflecting on the different aspects and reflections I personally have been witnessing when it comes to friends, tolerance, patience, attitude, aspiration, and confidence.

For this blog post I hope to cover the topic on Friends

I’m sure most of us have been through moments of questioning of others’ intentions. Even raising questions on those that mean the most to us, such as our friends.

As I’ve gotten older, I came to realize and understand that people go through trials and turbulences in their own lives which can make them not necessarily at their usual 100% solidity at times. Does this mean that they’ve changed who they are? Maybe, or maybe they’re not fully present with you at that particular moment and that’s fine. Friends and family members are people just like anyone else and can encounter moments in their lives where they are being tested and challenged, sometimes these moments aren’t visible or shared with us openly.

I’m a person with high expectations of others, and this doesn’t mean that my expectations have completely disappeared, but I’ve just learned that part of being mindful with myself, is being mindful of others and there really isn’t any harm in giving others the benefit of the doubt. Those who love you and want to be part of your life will and those that aren’t as invested wont, the moral of the lesson is that both scenarios are completely ok.

Your Solid People will have days that they’re not solid. Could be temporarily or for good, but for whichever reason it’s all good.

Mona